SHIFTING YOUR EMOTIONAL SET POINT
EXAMPLE
Anger is a temporary bridge from any of the following emotions (Powerlessness, Depression, Fear, Grief, Guilt, Sadness, Disappointment, Disillusionment,
Disempowerment and Discouragement) to Feeling Better.
Blame feels better than guilt.
Emotional Scale*
Powerlessness, Depression, Fear, Grief, Guilt
Sadness, Disappointment, Disillusionment, Disempowerment, Discouragement
Anger
Frustration, Aggravation, Irritation, Overwhelment, Fitfulness,
Hopefulness, Believing, Knowing, Joy
Subject: I am overweight and I feel fat
Describe how you feel about this subject. What emotions are you are feeling?
- I used to be mad at my father and brothers Emotion: Powerlessness
who were always talking about fat.
- Now I blame myself for being fat! Emotion: Powerlessness
- I feel like I cannot do anything to change it! Emotion: Depression
CURRENT Emotional Set Point: Powerlessness – Depression
Slightly Better Feeling Thoughts:
Write out several better feeling thoughts. Remember to think and feel and think and feel.
- Now I blame my father and brothers Emotion: Anger
- I am really tired of being fat Emotion: Frustration
- I don’t like the way I look Emotion: Irritation
- I don’t like the way people look at me Emotion: Irritation
- Why can’t the clothes manufactures make Emotion: Irritation
something real people can wear?
NEW Emotional Set Point: Anger-Frustration-Irritation
INSTRUCTIONS
Your LIFE unfolds based on how you FEEL!
Change the way you feel and your world changes.
1. Subject: Select a subject that is bother you. Pick something easy at first.
2. Describe how you feel about this subject. Fill in several thoughts.
3. Emotion _____________ Fill in the corresponding emotion to each statement.
4. CURRENT Emotional Set Point: What is your dominant emotion concerning this subject? Select an emotion on the Emotional Scale* that describes how you FEEL. This is your emotional set point. From your set point all your thoughts either provide relief or resistance to what you want.
5. Write down several better feeling thoughts moving up the Emotional Scale*. For example, moving from Powerlessness to Anger “I am stuck and can find no way out” to “I am mad as hell and won’t stand for it anymore!”
Emotional Scale*
Powerlessness, Depression, Fear, Grief, Guilt
Sadness, Disappointment, Disillusionment, Disempowerment, Discouragement
Anger
Frustration, Aggravation, Irritation, Overwhelment, Fitfulness,
Hopefulness, Believing, Knowing, Joy
6. Thoughts have magnetic power attracting similar thoughts. On any subject, you only have access to thoughts close to your Set Point. When attempting to shift your emotional set point make sure you try a small shift. Try Depression to Anger or Anger to Frustration. With a smaller shift, relief is easier to find.
7. Emotion _____________ Fill in the emotion for each improved thought.
8. In this exercise, we think a thought and FEEL whether it FEELS like relief or resistance. If it feels the same or worse you are going in the wrong direction.
9. NEW Emotional Set Point: When the relief comes you have attained a New Emotional Set Point on this subject. Select an emotion on the Emotional Scale* that describes how you feel NOW. If you feel a lot better you will not need to use anger as a bridge again.
10. Pat yourself on the back you have demonstrated your ability to control the way you feel. What is more important than how you feel? With practice you can go anywhere on the Emotional Scale.*
11. You are NOT trying to solve the problem. Rather feeling better and not thinking about the problem on a consistent basis will cause the problem to change and eventually go away.
12. PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE replacing the old thoughts with the new improved thoughts and your life will get better and better.